So, you have decided to move forward and get a divorce. What is the first step? Hire an attorney? No. Slow down and make sure you are ready for that step. If nothing has been filed with the courts yet, take some time to look at the big picture. Do you know the debts and assets of the marriage? Do you know where the paperwork is to locate that information? Do you have account information or know where to locate that account information? What about the debts of the marriage? The more information and documentation you have before you start the process, the less you will be chasing it down and paying a lawyer to chase down later.
Next, take care of yourself. This is not just a legal process and something got you to the point of being ready to file for divorce. The divorce process is draining Make sure to take care of your mental and physical health. Many people ignore their own health during divorce and drop weight (in an unhealthy way), go through depression and neglect other aspect of their lives. Go for a walk, go to the gym and make sure to talk to a professional therapist to pay attention to your mental health as well.
Now, you are ready hire an attorney. Now, you have the strength of mind, body and spirit to aide your attorney in preparing your case (not to mention the documentation). If you come prepared and healthy and strong when you are fully ready to get divorce, then your case will go more smoothly than if you jump feet first into filing. Be ready and be prepared to file. With the building blocks you built before going to an attorney, you will have a more clear idea of where you are coming from so you will have a better idea of where you want to end up and that is the best way to prepare to hire an attorney.